The holidays are roaring in regardless of lock downs, health issues, financial status, stress, and trauma.
But what do you really want?
I had a conversation with someone recently who emphatically stated that she wants the holidays to be the same as in previous years. "I want it so badly, I could cry," were her words.
She believed this was the only way she could have a Merry Christmas and celebrate New Years. What do you think will happen?
She is setting herself up for a fall because she will be very sensitive and reactive to whatever occurs outside the norm of previous years. If she holds on tightly to these beliefs, she risks missing any semblance of past traditions. She may blind herself to witnessing and participating in a tradition as a means of self-preservation.